Dreaming of being a stay at home mom? A word of advice…
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I wanted to be a stay at home mom all my life. I also had callings to be many differnet things as well. Some of them I achieved! A teacher, counselor, behavior therapist, international missionary… and church ministry in general.
I still want all of those things. And I have already been some of them in certain seasons and still continue some of them as well. But right now, I am primarily in the stay at home mom season. And to be honest, it covers pretty much all of those desires and callings on any given day 🤪.
But I say this because I wish I had understood that being a mom… specifically a stay at home mom is not the end all be all. It too is a season. Like highschool you, college you, young adult you, working 9-5 you, newly-wed you, retired you… it’s all a different season. And living and dreaming for the SAHM life alone is not healthy or helpful to you or your future family because when it does come, you can depend on it so much and pour so much of yourself into it that it consumes your identity and purpose in life. What happens when that season ends? Because it will end.
I guess this is just a tiny bit of advice to the younger women friends I know who dream of being a mom. True, it really is all I dreamed it would be and more. But so were (and will be!) all my other God given callings. My identity is only found in who I am in Christ and honoring him and sharing him with everyone I’m around in whatever season I find myself in. That alone has to be the focus. And It just so happens that right now, im fulfilling that calling from the Lord by being in the four walls of my own home and having tiny humans depending on me for every single tiny aspect of their lives. It’s a fight for perspective no matter where you are in life and if I’ve learned one thing in my 32 years so far, it’s that you need to focus only on where you find yourself right now because it will never stay the same for long. And this world isn’t our home anyway. 🙂
So I’m just going to enjoy this little sliver of my life while it lasts. You should do the same. Don’t wish away the season you’re in. The season you wish for will be just as short as the ones you’ve already been through